Updated for May 2022
Finding a Date: A Dummy's Guide To Casual Dating
Everyone knows what dating is, but let's have a refresher course anyway. A casual dating is having an affair or benefits with someone you're not romantically involved with. Ashley Madison or Fling have tons of such users.
So one-night stands, flings, friends with benefits all fall under casual encounters. That stunning vixen you took home from the bar and never saw again, your lab partner who agreed to “taking care of each other”, those are all textbook cases of two people meeting up. They're fun encounters with no emotional baggage, no drama, no strings attached. That's why it's so popular. How to get a dating partner on the regular basis? This short article has everything you need to know.
The secret of making a great profile online
First, a good profile. People think good looks are the only thing that's important in online dating, and they couldn't be more wrong. It plays a big part, but your profile is what will make or break the sale. Here's how you can fix it up:
- Don't be generic
Your bio and your pictures have to be unique. Sites like OneNightFriend or Ashley Madison will give you many hints how to make a great profile. Simply stating what you do for a living and what you're looking for in a girl are boring. No one wants to read about that. The same goes for your pictures. If you look like a generic stock image, no one would be attracted to you. Clothes that fit with a good palette are imperative and will get you tons of matches.
- Don't post “those” pictures
When girls talk about guys they would never meet up on a dating site, the first thing they bring up is their profile pictures. Guys who are shirtless, or have hunting pictures, photos of them holding fish, a picture of them with the waitresses at Hooters, that sort of thing. Girls despise those photos and are instantly turned off from men who have them.
Make it clear what you want and who you are
For a lot of women, looks aren't the only thing that makes a man attractive. The way you carry yourself, conversate with others and even knowing what you want can make you look even more appealing. Since you're just looking for affair, you don't need to talk about what you want your perfect significant other to be like. Tell about what you're looking for, in details. Mention your hard and soft limits, whether you're a dom, a sub, or a switch. Talk about whether you're open to dating married women, or if you yourself are married. You want to arouse interest, but still, leave room for mystery, so the ladies will have something to ask when they finally message you.
Should you look out for fake dating sites?
No matter how prestigious the dating website is, at some point you might run into a fake profile. Sometimes it's a bot, which is easily identified. Other times, it's a scammer or a catfish. Those can be harder to pick out. With bots, you'll quickly be able to tell they're fake because they always speak the same way. First, they say hello, followed by one or two quick, generic messages which end with them sending you a link. Never click on these links, as they're usually phishing malware!
Scammers and catfishes are more difficult to deal with. Since they're real humans, you'll have to slowly piece together the irregularities. Scammers will at some point ask you for money or favors. Never give in. If you get catfished, don't carry on with the date. It's better to video call a person before the date to make sure you're not getting catfished. Most people would never decline that as it's reasonable.
As with any other online interaction, never give out your personal data. Bank details, home addresses, social security numbers are all off-limits no matter the case. It also helps to have an alternate email for dating websites. Stay safe, and have fun!